Love does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth—1 Corinthians 13:6
Have you ever been happy that someone got the punishment you thought he or she “deserved”?
Have you ever – rejoiced when your “enemy” got what was coming to -him or her?
Have you ever been glad that your spouse did or said something that proved you were right?
-When a television show depicts a mistreated wife falling in love with her husband’s best friend and committing adultery, have you ever felt happy?
Have you ever vented your anger and frustration – on someone who has hurt you in order to hurt back?
All of these scenarios are a form of partying over wrongdoing.
There is something dark about celebrating the failure or punishment of another. There is something wrong about relishing in proving another person wrong. There is something evil about self-righteousness, about unleashing your anger on another, even if you feel that person “deserves” it.
Love does not party over wrongdoing!
But, love does party over the truth. Love does things differently. Love celebrates the truth. How do we do that? Let me suggest four decisions you can make to party over the truth:
- Decide to live in reality. I find that when I try to hide the truth in order to protect others from being uncomfortable, I am not living in the truth. In order celebrate the truth; I must live in the truth. Give your loved one the facts and the truth but deliver it with helpfulness and with kindness. As Paul reminds us, “Speak the truth in love” (Ephesians 4:15).
- Decide to find the good in people whom you don’t like. When you dislike someone, it is easy to find that person’s shortcomings,to point those shortcomings out, and then to share your criticisms with others. But, love finds the good in people. Love finds the good they do. Love finds the value in those you don’t like.
- Decide to celebrate the person I don’t like when something good comes their way. When your enemy succeeds in doing something good, throw a little party his or her way. Send -a card, an encouraging text message, or a give a complement face to face. I have seen – many cross-country meets where the number one runner did not do well, but yet – was able to celebrate a rival’s success.
- Decide to pray for your enemy when something bad happens to him or her. Pray for that person to find comfort, healing, and hope. It does your heart no good to celebrate the failures of others. It does your heart much good when you bless your enemies.
So there are some decisions that you can make to grow in your ability to party over the truth!
Let me know the ways you have decided to rejoice in the truth.