The Great Marriage Myth

Growing up on Disney films, we have bought into some myths about a happy marriage. These myths may sound good but, they tend to tear at the very thing that we want in a fulfilling meaningful marriage.

One of these myths is “The key to a happy marriage is finding the right person.” If I just find Mrs. Right or if I just find Mr. Right then every thing will work out.

When a couple stands before me in their wedding ceremony, they each believe they found the “right person.” Since they found the right person that’s it. They should now be happy forever. Now there shouldn’t be any problems.

But, after a day, a week, a month, six months, or a year (or possibly the drive to the reception), a problem shows up. Someone thinks, “Since there’s a problem in our marriage, I must not have found the right person. I want a new marriage, so I need to find a new right person.”

But what if getting a new marriage is not about finding a new person but rather becoming a new person?

The text that most read in weddings was written by apostle Paul. It is not about finding the right person. It is about becoming the right person, a new person who loves well.

“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things”— 1 Corinthians 13:4–7 (ESV).

If you want a new marriage, focus on becoming a new person rather than looking for a new person.

New Message Series “I Want a New Marriage”

starts Sunday, February 9th, at 9:00 or 10:30 am

 Lincolnway Christian Church

690 E. Illinois Hwy.

New Lenox, Illinois

Checking Out or Checking In

When the foundations are being destroyed, what can the righteous do?” (Psalm 11:3).  We often answer that question with a sense of fear as if all hope is lost. The world is changing and is in turmoil. But rather than see it as a time to checkout what if we saw it as a time of check-in with the opportunity?

That is what I have learned from Timothy, my brother in Christ, in Myanmar. He is the coordinator of Good News Productions in Myanmar. With the turmoil and dramatic shaking of the foundations in his country politically and economically, it could be a time of fear. What will happen to the Christians in Myanmar? But instead of seeing what there is to fear and checkout of the challenge he sees the opportunity now to reach the Buddhists with the life-giving message of Jesus Christ, the one true God.  It is a time to check-in with the mission of Christ.

Yes, the foundations being destroyed in American culture. We could see this as a time to fear. We could see it as a time to checkout, a time to hunker down or run away or to get on defense. But, Jesus did not call the church to be on defense or to checkout. The church is to be on offense.  It is time for us to check-in and become dangerous against the gates of hell. Yes, the foundations are being destroyed, but this brings us the opportunity to check-in to a new opportunity to bring the gospel with more boldness.

I want to remind you that after David asked what can the righteous do, he writes “the Lord is on His heavenly throne.” Let’s check-in to this opportunity that the Lord is placing in front of us!

Timothy is Checking In!

Timothy is Checking In!

Waiting In Flight

With my family scattered from Columbia, Missouri to Twickenham, United Kingdom, I’m heading west to South Korea with Sherry. Tina is back in New Lenox holding the fort down. I’m 33,000 feet above sea level. It has been 4 hours since we departed the gate in Chicago. I’ve rested for about an hour but sleep eludes me. It often does even in the comfort of my own bed. Now it is time to wait for the time to pass. I cannot make the plane fly faster. I cannot speed up the slowly changing digits of the clock. I simply wait.

I’m also waiting for The Lord to show up in my life and on this trip. I cannot make His hand move. I cannot force His transforming presence. I simply wait with questions: Will he use me significantly or will I just fulfill the task I volunteered for? I know that without Jesus I can do nothing. Without Jesus, I may do more harm than good. Without Jesus this is meaningless. So I wait on The Lord. I trust that He will show up just in time.

Welcome to

Welcome to my new blog. My name is Jeff Robinson and my goal is to help you lead and to live more boldly with a fierce connection to Jesus Christ. If you want to live more dangerously for the cause of Christ this blog is for you.

I plan to post at least weekly on Thursdays. I don’t intend for this to be a monologue but a dialogue. I want you to give me feedback on the comment section. I will read every comment and respond as I am able.

If you have a topic  you want me to address, please leave a comment below. I am looking forward to connecting with you!