Growing up on Disney films, we have bought into some myths about a happy marriage. These myths may sound good but, they tend to tear at the very thing that we want in a fulfilling meaningful marriage.
One of these myths is “The key to a happy marriage is finding the right person.” If I just find Mrs. Right or if I just find Mr. Right then every thing will work out.
When a couple stands before me in their wedding ceremony, they each believe they found the “right person.” Since they found the right person that’s it. They should now be happy forever. Now there shouldn’t be any problems.
But, after a day, a week, a month, six months, or a year (or possibly the drive to the reception), a problem shows up. Someone thinks, “Since there’s a problem in our marriage, I must not have found the right person. I want a new marriage, so I need to find a new right person.”
But what if getting a new marriage is not about finding a new person but rather becoming a new person?
The text that most read in weddings was written by apostle Paul. It is not about finding the right person. It is about becoming the right person, a new person who loves well.
“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant 5 or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; 6 it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. 7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things”— 1 Corinthians 13:4–7 (ESV).
If you want a new marriage, focus on becoming a new person rather than looking for a new person.
New Message Series “I Want a New Marriage”
starts Sunday, February 9th, at 9:00 or 10:30 am
Lincolnway Christian Church
690 E. Illinois Hwy.
New Lenox, Illinois